Why Do Relationships Fail
When it comes to relationships, there is not a magic formula that guarantees success for anyone. Relationships develop organically and one must follow their intuition and experience in order to make them work, although it is possible to identify several reasons that explain why they fail. Relationships often begin to fail as soon as they are started and the reasons are as obvious as they are overlooked.
As we grow up, social conditioning pushes us away from our divine purpose, as we are educated merely to have a successful life within the parameters and beliefs of society. The immediate consequence is the appearance of duality. We stand between what the soul really wants and what we are supposed to do in order to have a ‘normal’ life. Even the most dedicated person to earthly matters will be confronted by the call of the soul at some point during their lives. The current establishment does not make easy to engage in spiritual practices, but encourages people to find vocations which in most cases are purely artificial.
Under the current structure, the majority of the population leads a life towards surviving. Individuals who follow their divine purpose are rare, although the number is increasing, as spiritual awareness expands across the globe. When a person lives under the false truth of social conditioning, making their life purpose a matter of survival, and even those who have a successful professional career, the feeling of an unfulfilled dream will emerge at one point or another. The older we get, the stronger the feeling will be.
When a long term relationship is established with another person, living with this feeling will challenge such relationship. In a way, we have formed a society with a person who stands beside us seeing how we are wasting our lives. More than a wife or husband, a boyfriend or a girlfriend, what we have found is an accomplice to lead a purposeless life.
All relationships are mirrors in which we see a reflection of ourselves, but also a projection. Thus, projecting our fears and insecurities onto our partners is inevitable. Although the resentment towards the other person might be very well hidden under many different layers, the feeling is there. It is at this point that we want to escape. It is very likely that the other person has the same exact feeling, but as we are unaware of it, we find many other reasons to point fingers in their direction. Even when our partner is supportive and encouraging, if we lead a life that deviates from our life purpose, we will find multiple excuses to blame others for our existential dissatisfaction.
Regardless of the nature of the relationship we are in and the hidden intention of which we might not even be aware, one should never be afraid of wanting to find love. Relationships can never be considered a mistake, but an opportunity for growth and learning. Being aware of our intentions reduces the chances to make mistakes, but one cannot learn without making some. Mistakes are there to show us which path not to take. We bounce back and continue the journey in the best way we can. We might be bruised and wounded along the way in our path to love, but once we find it, all is forgiven and all is forgotten. In the end, what everyone wants is love and only love.
In order to remember who we are, we must go through the experience and feel any feelings and emotions attached to it. As long as we do not harm anyone intentionally, making a mistake is part of the human experience. The only mistake we can make is to fear love. Everything else is called living.
The solution to avoid making mistakes is to listen to ourselves, follow our intuition and do more of what make us happy. And the only way we can remember the truth of who we really are is to follow our life purpose. Deep inside we all know it, although sometimes it takes us a while to get started.