How many loves will you have in your lifetime?
Some people believe that they will get only 1 true love during their lifetime.
According to statistics you will fall in love up to 7 times before you get married, but they do not say what type of love this may be.
Your first love may break your heart and also teach you many lessons. Your first love will always be special because it was your first.
Many people compare subsequent loves to their fist.
Some types of love:
- Love for a friends that turns into something more. This love is risky as you might end up losing your friend, but if you do not pursue it you will always wonder what could have been.
- Lust can initially be confused with love. You can be infatuated with someone for a long time and lusting after them alters your perception of who they truly are. Before you settle down you might go through being in lust with more than one person.
- Your final love will be the one who you will be with for the rest of your life. This one will be the hardest because you will face the most difficulties in your life with this person. You will probably marry them and have kids or pets. You will face deaths of friends and family with them and go through money issues. You will have them to lean on and be there for them when they need you the most. Keeping the flame going after all those years might also be a challenge for some but not others, everyone has their own specific difficulties depending on the couple.
I myself feel that although I have been “in love” with many people during my lifetime, although I now have children and am married, I feel that I still have not been “in love” as it is written about. It makes me sad because I feel that I have missed out on having that unconditional love for another person.
The fault is most probably within me. Except for one person, I have eventually tired of everyone I have been in love with and their faults start to irritate me. This is not love.
I feel as though I will never have the love I wish because of my intolerance. The one person I did not tire of was a person who I had been seeing for about 5 years on and off. He was younger than I so I never voiced that I wanted more out of the relationship. Sex was great and I loved seeing him. I felt not good enough for him although I never voiced this. He had a lovely personality and was great in bed.
To this day he is someone I think about so my one regret is not telling him how I really feel about him. He might not have felt the same but at least I would know and not have regret about leaving things unsaid.
I am still hoping that one day I might find the love that I see others have.
My advice to all of you would be….do not be afraid to let someone know how you feel. At least then you know if the other person is interested in you or not. You might feel awful if your feelings are not reciprocated but at least you will be able to move forward without any regrets or thinking what MAY have been.
There are no perfect partners out there. We are all flawed in some way or another. If you cannot accept someone faults and all, it is best to leave that relationship.