Why you should stop looking for your soulmate
Soulmates have been played out to be our one and only love in the entire universe. We expect that our soulmates are out there somewhere, waiting for us, waiting to fix every broken piece of our tired souls.
However, this is not the case at all. You were not meant to fix another human being and your “soulmate” wasn’t meant to fix you. It’s important to recognize, first off, that you are not a broken person.
Sure, there may be a lot of adversity in your life, but that doesn’t mean a golden someone is going to come out of the woodwork and solve all of your problems.
The thing is, when we are looking for that specific someone, we are looking for the little things in them that resemble ourselves.
Essentially, your soulmate becomes a mirror of all your emotions, which makes it seem like they were made specifically for you. Again, this is not how love works.
They are not going to be able to fix all that has happened to you, they are not going to be able to sew back together the torn fabric that is your life, and you really shouldn’t expect them too either.
The way you feel right now is exactly the way they are feeling and probably are expecting you to do the same thing to them. Have you ever been called the “fixer” in a relationship before? Have you ever felt the urge to actually fix someone other than yourself?
That’s exactly why you shouldn’t be looking for a soulmate to begin with.They may share all the same feelings you do, but they are not going to be the one who solves literally all of your problems.
Having an unrealistic expectation like that with someone you’ve hardly met before is ludicrous. Instead, you need to address your problems first.
You need to find out what makes you the happiest out of everything else in the entire world. Once you have become to find your self-love then your true “soulmate” will come to you.
Otherwise, if you are constantly seeking someone in the world to fix you up and set you back out there, you will begin to realize that this is a very lonely way to live.
Your significant other is going to love you regardless of those broken pieces, they will not let you dwell on the horrible past, they will inspire a new future and new beginnings for the both of you to try.
Expand your world and truly find your happiness deep within yourself. In due time, your ideal love will present themselves just at the right moment.
You will begin to understand this “mirror” of a person. They will help you explore yourself and everything that brings joy to your life.
Your love will find a way to make you smile regardless of whatever has happened from before. Look inward and you will find the answer to your
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