Make your children feel loved everyday
1. Give them affection
Children thrive on warmth and affection so take a moment to give your child a cuddle, a kiss, a pat on the back or a cuddle.
2. Turn off electronic devices at mealtimes
There are so many electronic devices nowadays which cause a distraction in the home. In the past mealtimes used to be just that. A time for the family to connect and catch up on each others’ day. No more cellphones switched on at mealtimes or watching tv whilst eating. This way children can spend quality time with their parents with no other distractions.
3. Look into their eyes when communicating with them.
When speaking with your children you should make eye contact with them and teach them that when being spoken to being distracted by cellphones or other electronic devices is rude. Teach them that when speaking to someone or being spoken to that they should give that person their undivided attention and make eye contact.
4. Use love and affection to discipline your children.
Physical discipline has shifted into a taboo in many cultures, but nevertheless, some still feel that it is an effective and time saving way to punish their children. But it only teaches children to fear their parents in a very scary way, and that, if they want others to fear them, violence is the answer. But when disagreements and conflicts between you and your children arise, it’s important to show them that your love is real in both good and bad times. Teach them that love is unconditional even when a negative situation occurs.
5. Make bedtime an important process.
Make bedtime an important part of the end of the day ritual. Tuck your children into bed. Make a habit or reading a bedtime story which makes going to bed at night a pleasurable time for them.
It is said it takes more muscles to frown that it does to smile. Who knows if that is really true. However it is the message that is important.
When you smile at your child when he or she enters a room it makes them look forward to seeing you and being around you. Being around smiling positive people promotes positivity. It lightens the mood as well.
They say it takes more muscles to frown than it does to smile, but while the debate on that remains in doubt, it’s the positive message that proves the most pertinent.
7. Be a positive role model
Instead of preaching to your children how they should behave, practice what you preach and be a positive role model.
With word we constantly tell our children to be polite, to smile, to wash hands before dinner, to wear a seatbelt when in the car. If you are a positive role model throughout your life, childrens’ emulate their parents when they are young so if you are kind,caring, responsible and open-minded your child usually has the same qualities. Gentle words at times when a child forgets will help change bad behaviour.
8. Let them be a part of decision making
As a parent we have such busy lives that we tend to dictate to our children what they should or should not do. It is important from young to allow them to have some input. Teaching them how to make decisions is an important part in helping them have a feeling of independence.
9. Have fun with them
Children in the past would come home from school and have a small snack and then go outside and played with their friends for hours until it was time to come inside to washup before dinner.
In these times, children go from school to after school programs or sports activities and they have much less time to really enjoy themselves with other friends like it was done in the past.
When they do come home it is usually to sit in front of the TV or the PC . Take time out on weekends to do fun things with your children. Go fishing, go to a zoo or a walk in the park. If you make a routine of having some family time on weekends doing fun activities they are more likely to get used to doing this instead of sitting indoors all day every day.
10. When your child is unhappy, take action
Whether it be a hug if a toddler fell down or if your child is being bullied tell him/her how to react to it and if this still does not help get expert advice on how to approach the situation and get help before the bullying escalates.