Is it ok to cut ties with someone you have forgiven but no longer want in your life?
Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me.
To forgive someone doesn’t mean you have to go back to how things were. You can forgive someone but also learn a lesson that they can’t be trusted. As the saying goes: Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me. Forgiveness means you aren’t holding a grudge but you still have every right to make a decision about what is best for you, even if it means cutting that person out of your life. Forgiveness doesn’t always mean a second chance.
You can forgive someone for cheating. You can forgive someone for breaking your heart. You can forgive someone for abandoning you in a time of need, for walking away, for not putting you first, for letting you go.
But that doesn’t mean you trust that person again.
Forgiveness doesn’t mean you’re obligated to stay in a relationship or marriage with someone who has destroyed the foundation of everything you’ve built. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you keep a close friendship with the person who betrayed you. Forgiveness doesn’t mean you continue to engage with family members who have proven their disloyalty, time and time again.
Forgiveness means you accept what wrongs have been done to you, you let go of those wrongs, you calm your heart with God’s love and patience, and you begin again—with or without that person, it’s up to you.