6 Early Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship
Abuse can occur in any relationship, regardless of sexual orientation, age or race. There are, however, a number of signs that can be seen in those individuals who are prone to being abusive. Educating yourself on these signs, ensuring that you know what to watch for, will increase your chances of being able to identify an abuser early on.
Here are 6 signs that you are dealing with an abusive person:
They rush into relationships in their life
When an abuser finds a victim, they don’t waste any time before pulling that person into their dangerous web. They don’t want to risk losing out, and so they will appear to move incredibly quickly in their relationships. A whirlwind relationship early on with these people will then come crashing down into a world of manipulation and isolation before their victim generally even realizes what is happening. If you feel that someone is pushing your relationship along too quickly don’t be afraid to pump the brakes and reassess.
They are controlling
There is nothing that an abuser craves more than total control in their lives, and this includes in any relationships that they entertain. Watch for this need for control in even the smallest areas of their life, such as always having to choose the restaurant you eat at, refusing to allow you to drive or attempting to control who you are allowed to interact with. A highly controlling personality is a red flag for future abusive behaviors.
They will isolate you from everyone else
Due to their desire for complete control, and abuser doesn’t want to risk the chance that someone else may be able to influence your thoughts and actions. They also don’t want to allow anyone else to have the opportunity to spot what is happening from the outside and alert their victim. For this reason, they will do whatever it takes to drive a wedge between you and the people you trust, such as starting drama or instigating arguments They will ultimately seek to remove everyone from your life leaving you completely dependent upon them.
They have a hot temper and will take it out by breaking or striking objects when mad
While it may be easy to shrug this behavior off, pointing out that they are choosing to express their anger with inanimate objects rather than on the people in their lives, it is important to note that damage of belongings can escalate to something further. They may try to punish their victims by breaking their favorite belongings or strike the wall out of anger or as a means of creating a sense of fear in their lives. This attempt to frighten their partner is another technique used in their attempts to gain control.
They aren’t abusive towards everyone
Many people will shrug off their concerns regarding an individual simply because they can see that person doesn’t treat every person in their life poorly. Just because they don’t abusive everyone doesn’t mean they aren’t an abusive person! Remember, abusers are masters of putting up a front and creating a persona to fool others, so they may be a perfectly compassionate individual when around the general public, and then drop this facade when in private.
They are not abusive 100% of the time
This is another common misconception. If you suspect that someone’s behavior is abusive, don’t allow them to convince you otherwise by being nice and attentive for a period of time. All relationships have highs and lows, and abusive relationships don’t break that pattern. Don’t allow a period of good behavior to convince you to forgive abuse!http://the-conscious-mind.com/6-early-warning-signs-of-an-abusive-relationship/http://the-conscious-mind.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/09/abusive_relationships-600x401.jpghttp://the-conscious-mind.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/09/abusive_relationships-150x150.jpgRelationshipsabusive relationships,controlling,hot temper