5 Traits Typically Exhibited by the Toxic People in Your Life
Toxic individuals will come and go throughout your time here on planet Earth and many times we never see them coming. They can take the shape and form of anyone, be it a coworker, a close friend, a family member or even a parent. Their toxicity usually leaves you feeling exhausted and mentally fatigued. Sometimes, a person will be so toxic that they actually make you question yourself and who you are as a person.
Spotting someone as toxic is the first step in getting them out of your life. So, it wouldn’t hurt to learn about how to recognize a toxic person in your life–they’re not always easy to find.
Here are five traits toxic people exhibit that should raise a red flag or two.
They rarely ever feel the need to apologize
Apologies come when people feel bad about their behavior. Toxic people never feel bad about their behavior. When things don’t go according to plan or things aren’t as good as they could be, it’s never the toxic person’s fault. They will, however, play the victim to gain sympathy from others.
They’re highly judgmental
There is a difference between helpful criticism and criticism that is meant to be hurtful or demeaning. Toxic people regularly have something to say about every detail of your life. Your partner, your job, your friends, your possessions–all of it. They’d much rather talk about everything wrong in your life than discuss their own crappy lives.
They’re deceitful and manipulative
Toxic people have a strong desire to manipulate certain people into doing what they want them to do. They like feeling in control and get off on being maliciously deceiving. They simply use people to achieve the end result that they are looking for. And if you won’t give in to their manipulation, there’s a good chance they’ll dump you and look for someone else who is weaker.
They’re never there for you and really don’t care about anything going on in your life
Ever have a friend that you thought was your friend, only to find out that they really had no interest in your life or the things you’ve got going on at all? You try to think back to a time when they were there for you or when they helped you out, but you can’t. Because they’ve never actually done anything that a normal friend would do. Furthermore, you achieving and doing well takes the spotlight away from them and their own evil ambitions.
Their personality changes according to their agenda
An immediate red flag that someone is toxic is when a person is constantly switching their beliefs, attitudes, behaviors and values to manipulate things in their favor. One day they’re your best friend and the next day they’re your worst enemy. You never know who you’re going to get, especially when you’re around other people. They know how they need to act in order to achieve their manipulative goals, and they often do so without remorse.
h/t Psychology Today