No one deserves to be taken advantage of. Sometimes when that person is someone you are really into it can be hard to realize as we tend to want to believe the best about our partner. Usually we sometimes feel something is not right but because we are so in love we choose to ignore it.
If you are being taking advantage of it is best to leave the relationship. Staying in the relationship and hoping that it will get better is useless. It will never get better. It can only get worse.
Here are some signs to look out for:
1. You are lied to and you know it:
If someone fools you once, shame on them. If someone fools you twice, shame on you. If you know that he is lying, speak to him and call him out on it. It might lead to ugly arguments, but trust us they are worth getting into.
2. Your guy is always too busy:
You always check with him before you make any plan but he always cancels. Yet each time he makes a plan he expects you to drop everything, even last minute, and be there? Well, that’s your first sign of being treated like a doormat.
3. You never get a call back:
He blames the busy workday for not answering any of your calls yet he simply can’t understand when you are busy and can’t answer his calls.
4. You are always at fault:
He has put on extra weight and can’t fit into his pants anymore? Well, that’s your fault. If you hear this ‘It’s your fault’ one time too many in your relationship chances are he is just trying to blame you for everything and get an ego boost each time you apologise.
5. You are never made to feel special:
We don’t expect roses and surprises every day, but if he doesn’t even bother making you feel special – in whatever small way – on your birthday and anniversary or bother asking about your day, he might be one of those men from Me Land who simply don’t care about anyone else.
6. You are never the priority:
Be it for him or for your own self, you are never the priority. He expects you to put everything else after him and makes you feel like a second or third best option in his life.
7. You are always doing favours:
In fact they are no longer favours, they are now expectations. What started out as a mushy gesture to clean up his bachelor pad is now a task you are expected to do every other day.
8. You are ignored:
Double or group dates for you are a nightmare. Why? Because your partner tends to ignore you, not answer your questions and often laugh at you when in the company of others. He still expects to be treated as king of Me Land though.
9. You wish you were treated better:
As long as you listen to what he says and do exactly as he wants, you seem to be the love of his life. The moment you stop and offer your opinion, his love vanishes? Yeah, that’s a self-obsessed man right there.
10. Your opinion never matters:
While he expects you to do everything that he tells you to, he often seems to be doing the exact opposite of what you advise him to. While you call up his mom and speak to her thrice a day, he doesn’t even bother answering your calls.
11. You are always asked to give more:
The harder you try, the more you are taken for granted. No matter what you do, nothing ever seems enough. Sounds familiar?
12. You continuously feel unappreciated:
Your opinions are disrespected, you are mocked at and your emotions just never matter. If you feel this even after valuing your partner’s opinion and giving him the space to be himself, it’s time to rethink the relationship.
13. You are constantly bombarded with negativity:
You seem to be dragged into every unnecessary and negative argument by your man. In fact, it seems like you are the bearer of every bad emotion that he suffers from. Don’t waste anymore time explaining yourself to a person who clearly doesn’t care.
14. You feel bullied:
There have been times when you are scared of your partner because of his actions or his words. Also, he always seems to ‘talk you’ into doing exactly what he wants. It’s high time you stop letting him kick you around and take charge.
No one deserves to be taken advantage of. Sometimes when that person is someone you are really into it can be hard to realize as we tend to want to believe the best about our partner. Usually we sometimes feel something is not right but because we are so...