12 Signs Of A True Relationship
If your relationship has most or even better ALL of these signs it is a very true relationship.
1. Acceptance of the good AND bad
Your partner is not going to have every single great quality you’re looking for without having a few you dislike. There’s just no “perfect” person out there for you. You’ll have to face certain characteristics of theirs that you’d rather not but the difference between a random fling and true love is that you accept those bad things. You take all of the good qualities they have and accept them along with the bad. And you realize that not everyone is perfect and not everyone will be everything you want. Accepting their flaws is definitely a sign of true love in a relationship.
2. Being yourself
I know this one may sound cheesy, but it’s 100% true. If you can’t be yourself with someone, then what’s the point? I know you may think you can get away with acting like a certain person around your partner and then truly being someone else, but do you really want to do that for the rest of your life? You can’t. And you shouldn’t have to. When you find true love, you’ll feel comfortable just being completely and 100% yourself.
3. Making sacrifices
No relationship can fully function without making sacrifices and you will never find true love unless you run into situations that make you sacrifice something for the sake of the relationship. True love doesn’t come easy. You have to give up a lot to make it work. But what makes you realize it’s true love is if you’re willing to sacrifice certain things in order to find that true love.
There has to be equality within a relationship for it to be true love. One person shouldn’t put in more effort or care more than the other person. That’s not true love at all. When you’re with someone who treats you as their equal and care about your opinion just as much as you care about theirs, that’s true love. When you find someone like this, you’ve found the one.
You might be thinking that this one is false because “true love doesn’t have fights”. That way of thinking is completely wrong. True love definitely has arguments, they’re just different than when it’s not real love. How, you ask? Well, when you’re truly in love with someone, you fight to find a solution to the problem and to work toward harmony. When it’s not true love, you just argue so the other person sees your point of view and says you’re right.
6. Effort from both people
Like I mentioned above, true love isn’t one sided. If it is, then it’s not real at all. You have to have a relationship where both people are equally as invested in it and they’re putting forth the same effort. When one person is obviously doing way more than the other, this isn’t true love. Why? Because the other person is basically showing you that they don’t care as much as you do. And when you don’t have mutual love, it’s not true love.
7. Ultimate trust
If you don’t completely trust the person you’re with, you can’t possibly love them for real. True love comes with a level of trust that you just don’t have with everyone. Sure, you may have your doubts and be concerned when certain situations arise, but if you know 100% that you can trust them with anything, that’s a sign of real love. You won’t feel this type of trust with everyone you date so when you do, pay attention.
8. Sharing their pride and happiness
When your partner accomplishes something amazing, how do you feel? If you feel proud and excited for them, it’s a sign of true love. When you care about someone deeply, their emotions become yours. You end up being happy when they are, sad when they are, and also really proud of them and their accomplishments. There should never be any jealousy or animosity when they accomplish something they’ve been working for. You should be happy and proud of them.
9. Their happiness is more important than your own
At the same time, when you truly love someone, their happiness becomes more important than your own in a way. If you give up certain things that make you happy just so they can have happiness, you truly love them. However, there is a limit to this. If you are always thinking about their happiness and they’re unconcerned with yours, this isn’t true love. This feeling has to be mutual for it to be true love.
10. No matter the struggles in your life – you’re happy by their side
You could be going through the shittiest time of your life but if you have them by your side, you’re happy. This is true love. No matter what you’re going through in life, if you can say you’re happy simply because you’re with that one person, then you’re really in love with them. The bad times become bearable with the person you love at your side. Because while you’re going through a hard time, that person is there to help you get through it and to lift your sprits.
11. Even when you’re mad, you still love them unconditionally
Some people get mad at their significant other and immediately claim they don’t care about them and even do things that will hurt them. This isn’t true love. No matter how angry or upset you are with someone, if it’s true love, you’ll always love them deeply no matter what. There’s nothing that can take that love away from you. You could be the angriest you’ve ever been and yet, you’ll still feel a deep love for them. That’s what true love is and if you feel this, it’s a sign you’ve found the one.
12. Working hard to make the relationship function smoothly
True love is not all roses and butterflies like you see in the movies. The truth is, true love is a lot of work. Your feelings for the other person may be easy but if you really want to be with them and only them, you have to put in a lot of work to make it happen. You’ll run intro troubles from time to time and you have to work hard in order to smooth out those road bumps so you can have a healthy, happy relationship.