It is very normal when your relationship is very new that you are totally infuated with your boyfriend and want to spend every waking moment with him. This is normal in the beginning of a relationship but when this remains the same then there is a problem. There is a difference though between a close intimate relationship and a relationship where you are totally dependent on your boyfriend.

When you are too dependent on your boyfriend for your happiness you lose who you are and it is not a healthy relationship. You must have your own interests and have things you do on your own and allow your boyfriend the space to do the same.

Here are 10 signs which show you are too dependent and you need to back of a bit.

10 signs you’re too dependent on your boyfriend.

1. You Feel Miserable and Lost When You’re Not With Him

It’s normal to miss your boyfriend a little bit when you guys aren’t together, but it starts to cross the line when it makes you feel seriously miserable lost. If you have no idea what to do with yourself when he’s busy, that’s a huge sign that you’re too dependent on him to make you happy. You should able to get through a day on your own without feeling like you need him by your side.

2. You Text Him All Day, Then Call Him Later

I’m not going to tell you how often you should talk to your boyfriend. What I’m trying to say here is that if you’re literally texting him the entire day and then talking to him for hours on the phone, well… it basically means you need to keep in touch way too much. It’s good to be apart a little! It gives you more to talk about when you’re together.

3. You Freak Out If He Doesn’t Answer Right Away

Do you practically have a panic attack if your boyfriend doesn’t answer the phone when you call him or if he takes more than 20 minutes to respond to a text? If so – danger, danger! Look, just because he has a cell phone doesn’t mean he’s at your beck and call. If he doesn’t respond, he might be too busy. If you can’t handle waiting to hear from him, that means there’s something wrong.

4. You Like What He Likes

If you have changed all of your views and opinions based on what your boyfriend likes and doesn’t like… not good. You need to maintain your sense of self when in a relationship. It’s great to have some things in common. It’s also totally fine to disagree on some things.

5. When You Guys Are In Public, You Don’t Leave His Side

When you guys go out together, are you practically attached at the hip? Do you stick by his side, holding his hand, no matter what else is going on? If so, relax a little bit. Step away from the boyfriend. Let him breathe a little bit. Being on top of him in public makes it seem like you don’t know how to interact with others without him and that’s not okay.

6. You Don’t Make Decisions Unless You Talk To Him First

Say your friends ask if you want to hang out next Friday and you have nothing planned. Do you say yes… or do you wait to see what your boyfriend is doing? If you wait to talk to him, doing stuff like that means you’re incapable of making a decision without his input or approval. Just because you’re a couple doesn’t mean you’re one person – you need to be able to do your own thing sometimes. You need to make decision for you, not for him.

7. You Don’t Remember The Last Time You Had A Girl’s Night

Speaking of friends, when was the last time you had a girl’s night that didn’t involve your boyfriend at all? Oh, you can’t remember? Not good. Doing your own thing is important, like I said, and you should be making time for your friends too.

8. You Get Annoyed When He Has Guy Nights

If your boyfriend sometimes just wants to be with his friends without you and that bugs you, that’s not okay. Just like you need time to be with your BFFs, he needs time alone to be with his. It’s not him blowing you off or being mean, it’s just him wanting a little bit of space.

9. If He’s In A Bad Mood, You’re In A Bad Mood

Your mood shouldn’t depend on his mood. He might be angry or sad or bummed out, but that doesn’t mean you have to be too. Again, be your own person. Have your own sense of self. Don’t try to become one mega-person here. That’s not healthy.

10. You’ve Basically Never Been Single

Another sign of being too dependent is if you’re one of those girls who has never been single – you jump from relationship to relationship and can’t stand the thought of being on your own. This is not good. Everyone should be single for a few years of their life. It lets you learn who YOU are as a person, not who you are as someone’s girlfriend. Being single allows you to experience things and grow into yourself. That’s really important!

 

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It is very normal when your relationship is very new that you are totally infuated with your boyfriend and want to spend every waking moment with him. This is normal in the beginning of a relationship but when this remains the same then there is a problem. There is...